This classic situation from life:
You are stressed and go to your boss with it. Their response? “Organize better, get the courage, step up, and collect yourself.”
So, you go to your buddy and talk about how difficult a manager you have. “My work is driving me nuts. Communication does not work. So much to do!” Your buddy tells you: Get back on your feet, get your head on straight, pull your socks, grow some balls, and say ‘no’.
What do they have in common? You. It is you who have to get a grip. Use these 4 tips.
1. Assess Your Priorities
Your choice.
It is quite tricky to understand it. But you are in charge of your priorities. What is important to you? Work, family, money, hobbies. What is it? And do you act on it?
Take time to reflect on what truly matters to you in life and at work.
Instead of crying about how busy you are and how many responsibilities you have, consider your values, aspirations, and long-term goals. By gaining clarity on your priorities, you will focus your energy and efforts on the ‘right’ things.
Leaders have so much to do all the time. They are drowning and everything is a priority. But when everything matters, nothing matters or gets done.
Without priorities, you won’t get fulfilled in your life and your work will be without purpose.
Keep complaining or finally pick the priorities. The choice is yours.
2. Establish clear goals
You have heard this millions of times.
But let me remind you that clear and realistic goals are like a roadmap. It keeps you focused, motivated, and balanced.
I work with leaders who suffer from burnout because they do not break down larger goals into smaller ones. Bummer. Of course, you fail to achieve them. Of course, you feel like you failed and your work sucks.
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3. Develop habits
“I want to get up at 5 am.”
“I want to be more present in meetings.”
“I want to be more assertive.”
“I want my team to respect me.”
“I want to improve my communication.”
Some people want something, but fall into a victim mindset when they can’t get what they want. They crab in their shell and complain about all the things that are happening to them.
What you want is often a habit to learn.
Habits shape your daily lives and well-being. Habits support your goals and are the real foundation for success and happiness. Habits help you put your shi* together.
Complain less, and get things done
4. Embrace growth and a positive mindset
They didn’t tell you and decided without you. They promoted someone else. They forgot to invite you to a meeting.
Every day, there is something that is not working. Typically, company communication flows around and you don’t know what the right and left hand do.
You can be:
Annoyed about it.
Surround yourself that it will never be perfect and go with it.
Be proud of yourself if you choose the second option. It is a sign you have a growth mindset. Because what seems like a challenge is an opportunity.
Someone did a change without you? Okay, it’s done, and now you can test it, and refine it. They did not invite you to an important meeting? Urg. Okay get updates and be happy you saved some time for other things.
Every setback, failure, and lack of communication are valuable lessons. They fuel your personal development (and patience) journey.
You can be better every single day. Isn’t it wonderful?
TL;DR
Pull up your socks and:
Take control of your priorities by aligning your actions with what truly matters to you, both personally and professionally.
Set clear and attainable goals to stay focused and motivated.
Develop positive habits that support your goals.
Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth. Cultivate resilience and a positive mindset to overcome obstacles and thrive.
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